Toddlers: 1-3 Years Old
Help toddlers learn the correct names for their body parts. Teach them to use words like “penis,” “vagina,” “breasts,” and “bottom.” Avoid using nicknames for these body parts. Nicknames can create stigma that these body parts are inappropriate and secret. It is beneficial for children to grow up feeling comfortable talking about sex and their bodies.
To help toddlers understand their bodies and boundaries, teach them that “no” is a good word.
Teach them to say "no" to an unwanted touch, hug, or kiss.
Teach them to say "no" if somebody is doing something that makes them feel uncomfortable or unsafe.
Teach them that they are the boss of their own body.
Help toddlers feel comfortable asking questions. Once you teach them about body parts such as a penis or a vagina, they may have many questions about them.
“Does Daddy have a penis or a vagina?”
“Does the cat have breasts?”
"Why does Cousin Jenny call it a butt?"
Do your best not to make them feel ashamed or silly for asking questions. Answer these questions accurately and honestly. Sometimes there are even bigger questions that can lead to some imaginative ideas. While this is normal, it is still important to help dispel any myths. Being clear and specific is crucial at this age as toddlers tend to take things very literally.
Be a good model for your toddler. Children learn behavior through modeling before they are verbal. Model affection and touch with your spouse, partner, or friend. Ask for permission before touching someone. Toddlers will learn about permission before touching someone or being touched by someone. Teach them to make their own decision about receiving hugs and kisses from anyone.